on repeat: "Let's Talk About Sex"

just because you talked about it once
doesn't mean you don't need to talk about

sex again... so, let's talk about sex.

original posting for my rambling, lyrics,
and a free download of salt-n-pepa's
controversial track, "let's talk about sex"

The Format: "Give It Up"

Well I made my way back down to the valley
Right on past 83rd street
That's where we once belonged
But I’m gone
I swear I’m long gone

[CHORUS]
So give it up, throw your hats in the air
And change just as they land,
you’re saying "We'll get out of here"
Something tells me that you’re too scared to go

So the stairs that you could climb
Are the ones you’ve left behind
And your eyes light up when we talk about the past
God, I miss those songs we used to sing
Talking like getting away would be the greatest thing
Well me, I got out,
And you, you kept singing to me
Like that's really going to set this free

[CHORUS]

Like a ghost
You’ve been haunting all these dusty old roads and old homes
The ones we swore we'd never go, oh oh

As for Joe
Oh I’ve seen him around
Then there’s Adam
He’s afraid to go out
I don’t blame him, I just wanted to go out to eat

Then there’s Mark
God damn, I wish him the best
We were kids back then, as if we could progress
Sometimes I, I just can’t sleep
Thinking of everything we could have been so

[CHORUS x2]

...

fitting for a road trip flick's soundtrack.
cue it just as the car pulls out of the driveway.

fitting for my road trip, which may represent
the first time i actually leave for more than a
few months at a time. few people have faith in that,
or at least that's what they tell me. all i know is
a lot of tears were shed upon my exit, so it better
last at least as long as the sobfest did.

while i'm excited to spend some time with
myself, in the car... i'd be lying if i said it
would suck if someone filled in as co-pilot.

as i've mentioned, freelurving for one
is sometimes necessary, but freelurving with a
plus one is often more fun. too bad not-so-stranger boy,
my brother, or one of my freelurving besties* couldn't
throw their hat in the air and run away with me.

it could have been so romantic.
like thelma and louise without the abuse, rape, or suicide.
or natural born killers without the guns.
can you see it?

the format's website
download "give it up"
(or buy it)

*over/getting over these, just to clarify...

a day in the life...

another bettye lavette moment.

while freelurving from b'more, i was pleased to discover
bettye lavette was still within reach. she popped out at me,
after esg, in the r&b and funk stack of vinyl at soundgarden,
while my freelurving friend was on a date at the restaurant mezze
right next door. it's bizarre how she seems to follow me around.

be like freelurving and get your own copy
of freelurving's leading lady on vinyl.
you won't regret it.

Salt-N-Pepa: "Let's Talk About Sex"

	Salt-N-Pepa - Let's Talk About Sex (Original Recipe Club Mix)
	Found at skreemr.org

been on the road, again. sorry
for the delay. i've been waiting
to put this one up here.

...

CHORUS:
Let's talk about sex, baby
Let's talk about you and me
Let's talk about all the good things
And the bad things that may be
Let's talk about sex [4x]

Let's talk about sex for now
to the people at home or in the crowd
It keeps coming up anyhow
Don't decoy, avoid, or make void the topic
Cuz that ain't gonna stop it
Now we talk about sex on the radio and video shows
Many will know anything goes
Let's tell it how it is, and how it could be
How it was, and of course, how it should be
Those who think it's dirty have a choice
Pick up the needle, press pause, or turn the radio off
Will that stop us, Pep?
I doubt it
All right then, come on, Spin

[CHORUS]

Hot to trot, make any man's eyes pop
She use what she got to get whatever she don't got
Fellas drool like fools, but then again they're only human
The chick was a hit because her body was boomin'
Gold, pearls, rubies, crazy diamonds
Nothin' she wore was ever common
Her dates heads of state, men of taste
Lawyers, doctors, no one was too great for her to get with
Or even mess with, the Pres she says was next on her list
And believe me, you, it's as good as true
There ain't a man alive that she couldn't get next to
She had it all in the bag, so she should have been glad
But she was mad and sad and feelin' bad
Thinkin' about the things that she never had
No love, just sex, followed next with a check and a note
That last night was dope

Let's talk about sex, baby (sing it)
Let's talk about you and me (sing it, sing it)
Let's talk about all the good things
And the bad things that may be
Let's talk about sex (come on)
Let's talk about sex (do it)
Let's talk about sex (uh-huh)
Let's talk about sex

Ladies, all the ladies, louder now, help me out
Come on, all the ladies - let's talk about sex, alright
[repeat]

(Yo, Pep, I don't think they're gonna play this on the radio
And why not? Everybody has sex
I mean, everybody should be makin' love
Come on, how many guys you know make love?)

[CHORUS]

...

this song has stuck with me since i was in
kindergarten, 1991, the year of its release,
to be precise. i remember singing it with my
friends while walking to school, dancing to the
video in my living room, and blasting it
on the three disc cd player in my bedroom.

despite knowing all the words, and playing
it on repeat multiple times, it really didn't
mean much to me at that point in time. today
it's a little different, as you can imagine.

i found this song especially fitting
for a recent conversation i found myself
in the midst of the other day. leaning
against my car was my not-so-stranger boy,
listening to me say, "sex is serious,"
and him saying something to the effect of,
"sex is always better when both people can
talk about it."

so, yes, salt 'n' pepa, let's talk about sex.
because not-so-stranger boy has a point,
and i know i was right too.

that being said, i am donating this song
to anyone who is talking around, not talking
about, or trying to figure out how and when
to talk about sex. download this gem,
burn a cd or throw it on your i(whatever),
and hit play when your not-so-stranger boy/girl
is in the car with you. it will be the perfect
icebreaker for any and all conversations
about sex. really tricky parents could even
use it to initiate the dreaded sex talk...
imagine that.

salt 'n' pepa's website
download "let's talk about sex"
(or buy it, i did)

on repeat: "Winter's Love"

because i love winter so much,
and it's fully retreated into hibernation,
i thought this was worthy of a repeat.

and it was a request,
so i know at least one person
wants to hear it again.

enjoy.

original posting for lyrics
and video of "winter's love"

on repeat: "Sentimental Heart"

definitely not the official music video,
but pretty cute rendition of she and him's
much lurved track.

oh to be a romantic.
tough sport i tell you.

original posting for lyrics and download
of she and him's "sentimental heart"

a little help for freelurving friends

sometimes i worry...
that maybe this whole download thing
isn't second nature for everyone as i would assume...
i've had a couple pseudo-complaints, such as,
"why can't i download the file?" or "how do i get it?"

so. click "download track" link from blog post,
which takes you to sendspace.com. then scroll down
and you'll see "download link" in black and
the track name in blue. click the track name
and you're in action.

and, while we're at it, ANY REQUESTS?
moment specific, love related (+ or -) tracks?
let me know: janiquette@gmail.com, comment here,
or, like most of you... facebook me.

Audra Mae: "The River"

	"The River"
	Found at skreemr.org

this track so worked for me the other night.
as usual, i was sitting in my car.
and it made a lot of sense.

...

I've done a bad thing it's okay
I'm going down to the river today
And the river's gonna wash my sins away
Til I'm born again tomorrow
Oh to get over my head
Make me forget my sorrow

I'm going down to the river alone
Don't tell mama and daddy I'm gone
And if they cry when I don't come home
Just lie and tell them I'm funnin'
Water get out of my eyes
Into the river wide I'm runnin'

And I can't swim
But it's alright
'Cause all my sin would drag me down even if I could
And if it weren't for him and the love that night
I'd be living for the light like a good girl should
'Cause a good girl should

This old town'll have my skin
I can't speak the trouble I'm in
So if I don't come back again
Go lie beneath the willow
'Cause where I carved my name
Is where my soul will remain
And I'll still know

Lord, and I can't swim
But it's alright
'Cause all my sin would drag me down even if I could
And if it weren't for him and the love that night
I'd be living for the light like a good girl should
'Cause a good girl should

When I meet the Lord so kind
I'm gonna give him a piece of my mind
And I'll tell him I wanna know why oh why
When he's so damn forgivin'
My daddy won't look in my eyes
Mama knows the lies I'm living

Oh, I can't swim
But it's alright
'Cause all my sin would drag me down even if I could
And if it weren't for him and the love that night
I'd be living for the light like a good girl should
'Cause a good girl should

...

sex and religion and love and such.
what a mess.

i was about to write that not being religious
makes freelurving much simpler pour moi,
but it doesn't. i'm not changing my nonreligiousness,
just letting my mind meander through the pews
momentarily.

i'm still plagued by feelings of guilt and regret,
the way any god fearing person should be, but
eventually am able to sort them out with the
party(ies) involved, rather than talking to god about it.
and after the sorting out takes place, i may still be hard
on myself about whatever may have happened, but am
typically able to walk away with a huge smile
on my face and am much more at ease.

like i said. sex, love, and religion... a mess.
(if that threesome offends anyone reading,
you should stay away from threesomes all together)

audra mae's website
download "the river" (or buy it)

and, a shout out to philly's 88.5 FM
for playing this song while i was driving to work
last fall... otherwise i don't think i'd be listening
to audra mae.

freelurving for one

	Ratatat - Seventeen Years
	Found at skreemr.com

while freelurving is definitely a
two person sport... sometimes you
just have to go it alone.

i was driving in my car and
this ratatat track came on and
the beat just hit me, like with most
ratatat tracks, but then i thought
about the lyrics and how in your face
they are and the ego / drive they convey.

thinking about freelurving as a solo sport
made me think of alone in kyoto, by air.
discovered this gem while watching one of my
favorite movies and it's always spinning on
my "working" and "really working" playlists.

either song can be taken in many ways.
whichever way you choose, hopefully
you'll agree they rock.

ratatat's website
download "seventeen years" (or buy it)

air's website
download "alone in kyoto" (or buy it)

Giana Factory: "Bloody Game" (Coral Mix)

	Giana Factory - Bloody Game (Coral mix)
	Found at skreemr.com

by popular demand, aka a dedicated
reader, has requested freelurving gets
back on it's feet / sits in front of the
computer again.

(un)fortunately for freelurving,
(un)like giana factory, no one has
opened my chest with a knife,
but i have been a bloody mess.

...

it's a bloody game

you better open my chest with a knife
it's a bloody game

if we should share our lives
you better open my chest with a knife

it's a bloody game

you better open my chest with a knife
it's a bloody game

you should cut up my

...

lurving is a messy sport.
watch your step, and your chest,
and your back, and you head...

whether you're in it to win it or
live by the if you had fun you won
motto, are a blood sucking vampire
or a heartbroken freelurving hater...
maybe just disillusioned or void of
all emotion, and not a hater?
you should rock out to this.

then step away from your computer so
you too can (re)discover that freelurving
inevitably leads to frost bitten feet,
burnt soles, stubbed toes, bruised knees,
bloody chests, stabbed backs,
and bumped heads.

see you in the e.r. freelurvers.

giana factory's website
play original version "bloody game"

download the "bloody game" coral mix
so you can hear this fabtastic track

on repeat: "Red Cave"

on the road again...
so this video is fitting,
as they are in motion as well.

if you are impatient, like many people,
you can fast forward to 2:30 and that's
where "red cave" starts. if not, sit back
and enjoy, it's a pretty interesting take
on live music videos.

original posting for lyrics
and download of yeasayer's "red cave"

one of those bettye lavette moments...

let me down easy...

too much to ask?
bettye lavette?

Inner Circle: "You Make Me Feel Brand New" (Stylistics cover)

no need for lyrics with videos like
this one... photo above of stylistics
and video streaming inner circle's version
of this precious track

...

My love, I'll never find the words, my love
To tell you how I feel, my love
mere words could not explain

You make me feel brand new
I sing this song for you
You make me feel brand new
For God blessed me with you
You make me feel brand new
I sing this song for you...

...

so this wasn't exactly requested,
but it seems like it should be up here.

i've never even met you, which is the
best part of our e-rants. and now, we've both
got blogs to email about. imagine that.
do we ever leave our computers? jeez louise.

i once paid a service $10 to connect me
with a pen pal in saudi arabia. we wrote
each other letters for almost four years.
for obvious reasons the letters dwindled,
i think i was around 12 years old at the time.

[boy not requesting:]

Yes the love song blog. So good.
I did a mix CD last year called Irie Radio,
all lovers rock and tender roots reggae.
I bought this record after preparations were underway,
but this Inner Circle cover of the Stylistics
"You Make Me Feel Brand New," is ridiculous.
I'm enclosing it for research purposes.

[my response to this song:]

definitely ridiculous, and worthy
of any cheesy (+) side freelurving mix cd.

and, it's the perfect love song to recover,
no names and just what a girl wants to hear.
caution though, unless she's totally dense
like me in the story i told about the boy
next door, she'll probably think you like her
at least a little, lot, a bit.

stylistics' website
inner circle's website
listen to and buy "you make me feel brand new"

(it's on inner circle's best of album,
why wouldn't you want this?

Animal Collective: "Winter's Love"

I love this light in winter time,
The frost cakes in the carpet
in winter time we'll have our ways
tombstones the mean belong in
No falls snow falls that ruin my day
It’s masked up from the street wire
and winter’s glow where could she be
She’s warm underneath my pocket
Just a calm and modern day
In early, early morning
Rush to her, and rush to him,
Am I a better person?
even in the whole take on
the loss is better said
I pulled the boy out of above
She made that boy a man

...

requested by one of my favorite people,
so i apologize for taking such a long time
to get this up here, but here you are!

i will have to paraphrase this request,
as i cannot find the email where you told
me the context of this for you,
but i believe it was to the effect of:

"it's just exactly where we were
at one point in time"

and... i know you have a love
for cakes, so i will venture to say the
reference to cakes in this song entered
your subconscious and added to your lurving
this track. but who am i to say.

animal collective's website
listen to and buy "winter's love"

Yeasayer: "Red Cave"

I went out past the willow and the well
caught my breath upon the hill
at the edge of the domain and I went down
and further down
and when I got up,
I'm at the red cave

and with that sound
as if I had been put under a spell
she led me to her abode
despite a winter's day

Mary's house in the hollow of the
white hazel rapid whirlpool
and the church of red cave

I'm so blessed to have spent that time
with my family and the friends
I love with my short life I have met
so many people I deeply care for
[repeat]

...
so this is what we do with a
sentimental heart... someone should let
zooey deschanel and m. ward in on
this gem of wisdom.

i am most definitely blessed to have
spent all the time with my family and
amazing friends, and especially the many
random people i have met and shared brief
moments in strange times and distant places with.

like the boy from australia that i met
on the bus on the way home from nyc
on that very cold and windy day and ended
up actually going out with later that week.

or the boy i met at the bus stop in denver
with nowhere to sit and nowhere to find solace
from the hot, hot sun or dust blowing on
my face from the bustling interstate
just a stone's throw away.

or neverending boy, that i am still
reminded of by random glimpses of my freelurving
favorite, "dreams", and other otherwise
insignificant details of my travels.

great great car song. repeated many times
in mine. makes you want to go places,
but reminds you of the people that really
matter most in your life. being somewhat of
a gypsy, i know home is where the heart is,
but these chance meetings are one of
the main things that keep me moving.

yeasayer's website
download "red cave"

on repeat: "Double Knots"

lovely trio here.
can't get enough of this song.

who ties you up in double knots?
let them know... let us know!
leave a note.

original posting for
the living sister's website and
"double knots" lyrics and download

Jack Johnson: "Dreams Be Dreams"

she's just waiting for the summertime
when the weather's fine
and she could hitch a ride out of town
and so far away
from that low down
good for nothing
mistake making fool with excuses like
"baby that was a long time ago"
but that's just a euphemism
if you want the truth he was out of control
but a short time's a long time
when your mind just won't let it go

well summer came along and then it was gone
and so was she, but not from him
cause he followed her just to let her know
her dreams are dreams
and all this livin's so much harder than it seems,
but girl don't let your dreams be dreams
you know this livin's not so hard as it seems
don,t let your
dreams be dreams
your dreams be dreams

...

here for you on request.
so you better listen to it and
love it as much as i love you,
and as much as you love this man.
you being you know who you are.

and, why was this requested?
straight from the blackberry of
the you know who you are:

just seemed appropriate
for our lives...

and you are so right.
summer comes quickly
and anything is possible.

jack johnson's website
buy a copy of "dreams be dreams"

She and Him: "Sentimental Heart"

Cried all night till there was nothin' more
What use am I as a heap on the floor?
Heaving devotion but it's just no good
Takin' it hard just like you knew I would

[CHORUS:]

Oh, oh, old habits die hard
When you got, when you got a sentimental heart
Piece of the puzzle
And you're my missing part
Oh, what can you do with a sentimental heart?
Oh, what can you do with a sentimental heart?

Cried all night till there was nothin' more
What use am I as a heap on the floor?
Heaving devotion but it's just no good
Takin' it hard just like you knew I would

[repeat CHORUS]

What can you do with a sentimental heart?

la, [who-o-o-o-ooo]
la, [who-o-o-o-ooo]
la, [who-o-o-o-ooo]
la, [who-o-o-o-ooo]

...

i've got a sentimental heart.
why else would i write this damn blog?
and, sentimental heart or not, old habits
definitely die hard... if ever.

i could bore with you my endless list
of bad habits, unforgettable moments, and
undeniable feelings that seem to torment me
way past their expiriation date, but i'd
rather just leave with this track and let
zooey deschanel and m. ward do the talking.
music making.

can you say break up mix cd?
because i know this belongs on it.
would go well with this freelurved
track by rose melberg.

oh, and something uplifting.
while sentimental hearts make freelurving
even harder than it otherwise would be...
i'm not giving up, i'll remain a romantic,
continue giving my heart to others,
and keep my finger's crossed that it will
be returned one day. i can only wish
the same optimism for the rest of you.

she and him's (super cute) website
download "sentimental heart"

The Knife: "Pass This On"

I'm in love with your brother
What's his name?
I thought I'd come by
To see him again
When you two danced , Oh what a dance
When you two laughed , Oh what a laugh

Has he mentioned my age love?
Or is he more into young girls with dyed black hair?

I'm in love with your brother
I thought I'd come by
I'm in love with your brother , Yes I am
But maybe I shouldn't ask for his name
And you danced , Oh what a dance
And you laughed , Oh what a laugh
Does he know what I do?
And you'll pass this on, won't you?

And if I ask him once what would he say?
Is he willing? Can he play?
If I ask him once what would he say?
Is he willing? Can he play?

Does he know what I do?
And you'll pass this on, won't you?
And if I ask him once what would he say?
Is he willing? Can he play?

...

a few things on my mind.

one, this track sounds so serious, like it
should be in some movie where something almost
apocolyptic is about to happen... but the lyrics
are kind of comical to me. what kind of dance?
and what does she do?

also, for the longest time, i thought
"can he play?" was really "can he pay?"
that changed things a little for me.

finally, the main thing i'm thinking about is
how often, when freelurving, we rely on other
people to say the things we cannot seem to say
to the person we need to be saying them to.
sometimes it works... but rarely. and we are
all guilty of doing this, myself included.

it's taken me years and years to even recognize
the value of being straightforward and honest
when it comes to relationships, yet it still
takes me so long to actually say whatever has been
racing through my mind, over and over, to the
person i need to tell. fear of being dramatic,
fear of hearing a response i don't want to hear,
fear of things changing, fear of making myself
vulnerable... all of the above are often in my way.

not sure what mix cd you would want this
song on... but i do think it's good to take
a minute sometimes to reflect on the things we
have to say that we avoid and the reasons we want
someone else to say them for us. i am doing exactly
that today and realizing i have a few things
that need to come out. and i think i might finally
be ready to say them for myself.

the knife's website
download "pass this on"

	The Knife - Pass This On
	Found at skreemr.com

on repeat: "Love Will Tear Us Apart"

double dose of
love will tear us apart.

original posting for
lyrics and free downloads

a note on OVERSHARING

to overshare is a verb in my book.
i'm an oversharer, down with oversharing.
while it's not technically one word, i feel that
like neverending, it's worthy of being its
own entity. and would venture to say it makes
more sense as one word than as two.

...

selective reading of the dictionary
allows the following interpretation:

like forking over the body, an individual's feelings,
stories, and self are ceaselessly contributed or
allotted in full portions to another person or group
always including the extra, too great, or excessive,
from beginning to end.

an act common among freelurving individuals.

...

selective reading?

the definition of "over" is overwhelming
to say the least... it is a preposition, an adverb,
an adjective, a noun, a verb (used with an object),
an interjection, and used in a variety of idioms.
there are over 60 entries for "over".

the exciting part, for etymology enthusiasts,
lays in the origin of the word. dating back to
before 900, "over" originated from the old
english variation "uver(e)". the exciting part, for
freelurving, is that "uver(e)" is compared to love. LOVE!

the definition of "share" focuses mostly on division,
equal portions, fractional parts, and, not until the fifth
entry, to use, participate in, enjoy, or receive jointly.
"share" is traced back to 1325-75 and originates from the
old english "scearu", which means fork of the body
or groin... the only thing i really connected with.

to me, "overshare" represents a blending of the
two words and its origins can, like "uver(e)",
be compared to love for more information.

there you have it freelurvers.
am i the only oversharer out there?

The Flood: "Sweet Janeen"

O, my unlucky stars
They are aligning in the shape of a guitar
But no one wants to hear me sing
So I think I'm gonna have to starve
Damn all the money lending
Notes are bending somewhere
Soft and sweet
I'm gonna find 'em girl, and if you wanna come
I can't promise anything
But I know you always wanted to learn to sing

CHORUS
Oh my darling, sweet Janeen
Pack up your trunk and come with me
I'm just a loser, sweet Janeen
I just wanna hear the guitar ring

Baby, what's the goddamn point of toiling
When I've got these melodies?
Already shot my soul into these lines
Now I've barely got the strength to breathe
Can't watch the brilliant rays through a windowpane
I'm gonna open it wide
And if you do the same I'm gonna meet you, girl
Down where the river bends tonight
Cuz I don't want no other life

CHORUS

I know you think it's cool
All my books and my words, so lush and true
But I could never be your only one
Unless you're boring too
I've got this crazy dream, but I just need some peace
Are you gonna stick with me
Through all the silent days under my stony gaze
Right now
You've gotta tell me

CHORUS

...

can't really help it.
heart aches a little every time.

i tend to overshare (yes, one word),
but that's all i've got on this one.

the flood's website
download "sweet janeen"